FRANKLIN REVIEW
Ó Carl Reddick
One of the concepts is ‘ Growth is the process of changing principles on your belief window.
What is a belief window...discuss
What do they mean by
growth...examples?...discuss
I don’t want you to act like me...I have no desire to act like you...who are you? What is your title? ...discuss...Act your title...are the results of your behavior meeting the needs of this title?
Other people have titles for us...name some
How did it get this way?...Can you remember a
time when things were going well?...What was it like?
Groups have belief windows...name a belief this group had when these classes started...name a belief it has now.
Are there now two groups here?...How are
there beliefs different...What do you predict for the two groups, given these
kinds of beliefs.
You could say kids comprise a group. Why is it
so hard to talk to them...to give them the benefit of our experiences? Do you
see a pattern here?
Crime is big business...Why do you think this is so?
Knowing all that, how could a group like this,
with all this insight, end up in a place like this?
Easy as ABC...
Activating event...
Belief (how the event is/was perceived)...
Consequences
Remember...don’t make this stuff complicated...don’t try to pin the depression, the anxiety, the anger, the addiction on external events. The Franklin model says it stems more from the fact that...
You behave and feel the way you think
Most negative or pro-criminal thinking comes
from distorted thinking...Discuss “distorted thinking” (‘I can handle jail’, ‘I
need the drama on the street’, ‘I’m cool, everyone else is lame’...’society is
out to get me’...’life is boring’...’they want to take my fun (IE). (drugs/alcohol)
away...’if they would change I wouldn’t have to(use/rob/hurt etc)
You can change the way you behave and feel by
altering what you think...discuss the about thoughts
Another Franklin law is ...’Results take time to measure’. What results do you see around here in this class?...How has your thinking changed when you try to compare it with people that haven’t had this information?
Lets look backward and forward into
time...Looking backward, do you think you had good, pro-social role models? In
your house did everyone get up and go to work or school diligently, every day?
Were you taught respect for your teachers, the law, people of other cultures,
and your own family?...yes?...no? Now
look forward...will things ever change if you don’t change the way you feel
about them?
Is it possible, then, that you were totally
unprepared to face the situations you need to overcome in order to get your
wishes...(Review the 3 wishes exercise...what were your wishes?) What are these
situations you needed to face to get your three wishes???
(job...school...punctuality...ambition...tenderness)
Another Franklin law is...If your self-worth is dependent on anything external, you are in big trouble.
There was a lady whose baby died...her
self-worth was totally invested in that baby...what do you think she’s like
today?
Name the people you have to please...no,
I said please, not obey or comply with. Discuss. How will you ‘think different’ next time.
Another Franklin law is...If the results of your behavior do not meet your needs, there is an incorrect principle on your belief window.
What is a principle?...discuss. What are your
needs? (wishes)...What results have you experienced?...What beliefs led to
these results?...Did you like the results?...yes/why...no/why?
So...Do you have a willingness to change? If yes, it starts today. Where you are, with what you have. If no, could you discuss again why crime is such big business? Where do you see yourself in this business? Change is not an event. In fact, I suggest for you it is really a process to get to where you already see yourself. ...’I’m really a good guy, it’s just that...’ or ...’I wouldn’t have done that if I hadn’t been using XXX at the time’ ...’I’m a good mother/father, it’s just that they (he she it) won’t let me see my kids’.
Could it be that we find ourselves at this stage in our lives because we accept criminal values? Imitate criminal values? Reject convention? Minimize law breaking? Rationalize our behavior? Focus on how useful crime is in our lives? And rarely pause to consider the alternative to (drugs...criminal behavior...rage...child abuse...theft...promiscuity...alcohol). That we constantly deny the hurt and extent of the harm (remember your family life and the impact you claim it had on you?) When confronted with our behavior we say ‘yeah, but...they always, and condemn the condemners. Finally, do we see ourselves as living by a different code of conduct than other mere mortals on this planet? Why? Where has this code taken us? What will our future probably look like. Will this meet your needs over time??? Discuss