The Language of Supervision
Ó Carl Reddick

 

Many people engage in supervision as normal part of their day to day lives.  The type supervision we will be talking about is that between a person holding what is perceived to be the legally superior position over another person. In other words...we are talking about professionals within the criminal justice system. A good example of this type of a relationship is the interaction between a probation officer and his or her client. A prison guard can also be said to be supervising inmates. Social workers, child welfare workers, mental health counselors, teachers, and parents are also supervising others. The important criterion for this type of supervision is that the person being supervised is at the relative legal mercy of the person supervising them. Naturally there are civil rights issues, appeals, and interventions built into all of these types of relationships, but we will be looking at this type of interaction from the perspective of the person purporting to be ‘in charge’. In this case, a Parole or Probation Officer.

 

Ø                  We will focus as narrowly as possible on how we speak to those we are charged with supervising.

 

If you hold this type of a job you usually experience, in the normal course of events,  the telephone ringing, tasks piling up, and pressures competing for your attention. But your principle function is to speak to people as they approach you during the day. These types of ‘conversations’ fall into distinctive categories.

 

Giving advice

Listening

Teaching

Interrogations

Questions

Counseling

Giving Orders

 

These activities were usually first learned in social situations. The problem is, our days are spent attempting to apply these social skills to our duties as Parole and Probation officers. First and foremost, we must ‘unlearn’ these social conventions as they apply to our jobs. What we are attempting to do with offenders is far removed from social conversation, educational dialogue, anecdotal information, and comments. Generally speaking, those of us in the ”helping professions” (and here I include policemen, doctors, health and welfare workers, corrections employees, parents, teachers, and many many others) have been given bits and pieces of training about how to speak to those with whom we have daily interactions. Or we mix and match our responses based on the level of intensity exhibited by our clientele. In other words, if they shout, we shout louder. If they want to discuss their personal problems, we assume an air of concern. If they want to lie and manipulate, we launch an interrogation to ‘get to the bottom’ of the situation at hand.

 

Consider this...when we are in the roles demanded by our jobs, we are literally ‘on stage’. And we better have a very good ‘act’ or the resulting burnout, inefficiency, and despair will not be a pretty sight.

 

Questioning techniques when the answer is ‘yes’

 

Think about your last day at work. If it was a typical day you spoke to many people. You spoke to your clients/offenders, various therapists, attorneys, your colleagues, the general public, and your boss. Each of these conversations were, ostensibly, engaged in for a particular reason. Lets take a look at some of the one’s we’ve all had with offenders in greater detail.

 

The routine client: “Mr. Jones is in the lobby” You have a person who has come to see you. Actually traveled to your office because he was ordered to by what he perceives as a ‘higher authority’. All to often the conversation goes something like this:

You: ‘How’s it going”?

They: Fine

You: Still living at the same address?

They: Yup

You: Still attending your treatment?

They Sure am.

You: How do you like it?

They: It’s OK

You: Let’s see...you see me on the first Tuesday of each month, right?

They: Uh huh

You: OK. See you then

 

Look at this conversation. A one minute exchange that elicited verification of a residence, participation in treatment, and a future reporting schedule. Or did it?

42 words were spoken. 7 by the client and 35 by the PO. The ‘information’ provided by the client was ‘Fine...Yup...Sure am...It’s OK...and Uh huh.

 

When asked, the PO will usually defend this type of conversation in one of two ways.

#1 “I’m too busy to do anything more in depth”

The logical question here is why did the PO have any conversation at all? The answer is that the offender is required to check in with his officer on a certain schedule. It’s part of the PO’s job duties to have regular contact with his offenders, even if no data was gathered. This interview technique, then, appears to be a waste of everyone’s time. However, in two minutes the PO could perform an ‘act’ that could have quite a bit more substance. And, oddly enough, this ‘role’ would all revolve around how he listens, rather than the questions he asks, as we shall soon see.

 

#2 “I have to ask these questions or he’ll never tell me anything. You don’t know these people”.

 

Every question the PO asked contained the answer. Look at the above conversation. The PO picks the subject and, when the offender agrees with him, moves on to the next subject. The only issues that surface are the ones that are of interest to the PO. If the PO thinks he is conducting an interrogation, he is doing a remarkably poor job of it.

 

Questioning techniques when the answer is ‘no’

 

Many of our clients are resistive. It’s extremely difficult to get truthful information from them and, after a few years, we come to disbelieve most, if not all, of what comes out of an offender’s mouth. So we develop certain ‘skills’ to cut to the chase and ask questions in a manner the PO has specifically learned will yield information about problem areas.

 

You: Hi. You’re supposed to be in treatment. Are you still attending

They: No

You: Why not?

They: I don’t have any money and besides, it’s stupid.

You: You know that it’s a condition of your probation don’t you.

They: Yes. But you can’t get blood out of a turnip.

You: But I can notify the court, they can put out a warrant and they can arrest you.

They: So?

You: The bottom line is, if you don’t complete the conditions of your probation you may very well may end up back in jail. Is that what you want?

They: No

You: Then be sure to keep your next appointment with your therapist before you see me again. 

 

103 words were spoken in this exchange. 81 by the officer and 22 by the offender.

The officer elicited these statements. “No...I don’t have any money...treatment is stupid...one rather tired cliché’...and ’no’ ”.

 

When asked, the PO usually defends this line of questioning by claiming he needs this information to document future violation reports and any noncompliance with the conditions of supervision. Often the PO is consciously defending himself from any  liability precipitated by future actions of the offender.

 

The ‘No’ statement by the offender raises red flags in the interview room. “Ah ha’, the PO thinks, ‘here’s one of ‘them’ ”.’I know how to deal with these people.’  And the reaction is to patiently explain the ramifications of this action to the offender. In the normal world this is called a ‘threat’.

 

Questioning techniques when the answer is a lie

 

Parole and probation officers have access to an incredible amount of information. Aliases, tattoos, addresses, psychiatric and discipline reports, and other raw information constantly pour into her office from the community. Often the PO will know precisely when the offenders is lying before the interview even begins.      

 

You: Are you still living at 123 Pine St?

They: Yeah

You: Are you sure?

They: Yeah

You: Do you have another place you stay?

They: No

You: Will you read condition #3 to me. The ones that says you must respond truthfully to an agent of the Corrections Department.

They: Yeah, I know it.

You: I’ll ask you again, do you have another address?

They: Sometimes I stay at my girlfriend’s at 222 Fir St

You: That’s better. As I’ve told you before, I want to know all of your addresses.

 

The PO emerges satisfied that carefully worded questions about inside information have achieved the desired result. 81 words were spoken. 16 by the offender and 65 by the PO. What was the result? An admission of an unauthorized address. For what purpose ?

 

Who holds the information...really ?

 

At the risk of stating the obvious, all information about the offender is held by the offender. His fellow gang members, his mother, his girlfriend, and certainly the PO only hold certain, carefully released, portions of his puzzle. But isn’t this true of all of us ? We have our hands on the control valve that allows information about ourselves out into the world. We open and close it when we think we need to achieve certain results. So does the offender. The techniques discussed in this paper will be uncomfortable for the PO to add to his or her work skills because they break all ‘the rules’ we have learned about gathering information.

 

Let’s go back to the first example. The PO’s attitude is that this conversation is only happening because ‘they’ want me to see ‘him’ one time per month. There is really little or no purpose to this interaction other than to says that ‘he’ was seen in the last 30 days.

 

A citizen may ask “Why, then, don’t you put this case in the case bank and stop requiring these monthly, useless, meetings? A fair question. The PO’s response would most likely be ‘Mr. citizen, you don’t understand...this is a dangerous person, a convicted felon. He’s a burglar and a car thief.” A good response, as far as it goes but take another look at the first sample conversation. Where did it address the issue of thievery; how did the interaction put the community at less risk? What exactly was going on?

 

If it is true that the offender holds the information, then doesn’t it make sense to update our information at every possible opportunity? As PO’s we simply need to design, develop, and deliver a modern and relevant ‘language’ that may serves us better as law enforcement officers.                                 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Twelve Things Not To Do

1.    Warn

2.    Threaten

3.    Promise

4.    Give advice

5.    Praise

6.    Sympathize

7.    Moralize

8.    Make suggestions

9.    Console

10.                       Command

11.                       Chastise

12.                       Or say ‘I told you so’

* there are exceptions to every rule

 

The Difference Between Hearing and Listening

 

After about five years of working as a PO you’ve probably heard every possible combination of every possible story an offender has to tell. Now you’re ready to start listening. Naturally, it is very difficult to listen when you are talking, so the first and foremost skill to develop is the ability to stop talking. In our job, whoever talks the most is in the weakest position. Some people go so far as to say that it is impossible to not speak when the second person in a conversation stops talking for a period of five slow full breaths. Try it. Next time an offender makes a particularly absurd or false statement just look at him for a count of five breaths. It is the rare offender indeed that won’t leap into the conversation with more information or a clarification of a previous statement. This is a five second technique that will change forever the dynamics of the way you collect information.

 

The reason for this, remember, is that the offender holds all the information. All of it. The trick is to get him to release it.

 

“I”  Destroys the Language

 

You: “I went to the movies this weekend”

They: I went to the movies this weekend too.

You: I saw an Outer Space movie.

They: I saw a comedy.

You: Oh yeah ? What was your movie about ?

 

This is how most of us speak to our friends. It very interesting and very common type of social discussion. It is more of a greeting actually. Your friend had an opportunity to hear about your experience at the movies. He or she could have learned a little about you tastes, style, whereabouts, and friends. But, quite unconsciously, they destroyed that opportunity in their attempt to be engaged in the conversation..

 

“I saw the game on TV”

“Oh yeah? I missed it

 

Again, a missed opportunity to receive information. But this is perfectly OK in a social setting. It is when we use this style in a professional setting that we are really making more work for ourselves.

 

 The Israeli Secret Police have refined the art of listening to some very bare and cold  techniques. They will interrogate a prisoner by putting him in a room with only a pencil and a piece of paper until the prisoner has written a document. They will then analyze the document. It is their experience that even asking questions or remaining in the room with the prisoner poisons the interrogation.

 

For us,  as PO’s, it must be understood that as soon as we use the word ‘I’, the offender has complete dominance of the conversation.

 

‘I told you this could happen’

‘I don’t want to do this but...’

‘I think you should consider...’

‘I think that’s pretty rotten of them...

‘I’m glad they arrested you’

 

You have moved the focus from the offender onto yourself. The offender can watch your values, cognition, and expectations unfold until he’s cast back into the spotlight.

 

Giving Away the Plot

 

Over the last ten or twenty years we have trained offenders in the culture of parole and probation. Has an offender ever said to you ‘that’s not how they do probation in ***

He says that because he has certain expectations about how the supervision will unfold. We are responsible, as a profession, for this state of affairs.

 

The moment you ask a specific question the offender settles back and thinks ‘Oh, that’s what he wants to talk about.’. He then busies himself with thinking of possible responses to the subject broached by the PO. “Oh, this is going to be about drugs’ or ‘OK, this is going to be about where I live’ (not about the car I stole last night, or the forged food stamps in my apartment) By asking the first question we shape the amount and type of information we can possibly receive from the offender during each particular interaction.

 

Criminals have well known and documented thinking patterns. The need for relatively instant gratification keeps them focused on the most recent sequence of events in their lives. Remember, they hold all of that information. So when we ask them about the past, we’re missing the opportunity to reach them where they live...in the present.

 

In the book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen Covey, admonishes “First seek to understand, then seek to be understood”. In your position as a PO there is really very little need to be understood by the offender. The offender mainly needs to understand the conditions of probation. He needs to understand where his therapy will be held. He needs to understand his reporting schedule. He does not need to understand his PO: he does need to understand his probation or parole.

 

You see, the effort to have the other person understand us is a social convention. When we are being paid to perform our jobs, we are not in a particularly social situation. Using the same ‘language’ we use with our family, friends, and co-workers is actually counter-productive to our function as  PO’s.  But even in social situations, as Ann Landers says, “there is a great deal of difference between people that enter a room and say ‘here I am’ as opposed to those that enter a room and say ‘there you are’.

Learn to listen, because as soon as you speak,  you start giving the plot away.

 

How to Listen

 

In a book titled ‘ Motivational Interviewing’, authors William Miller and Stephen Rollnick discuss the concept of reflective listening.

 

Perhaps the most challenging skill in (what Miller&Rollnick term) motivational interviewing is that of reflective listening. In popular  conceptions, listening just involves keeping quiet and hearing what some  one has to say. The crucial element in reflective listening, however, is how     the counselor responds to what the client says...(the wrong message for a        PO to give) is ‘listen to me, I know best.’  Instead of continuing to explore      the path,  the client has to deal with a roadblock.

 

Usually, a PO has been trained in a ‘Command Voice’ to defuse and intervene in emergency situations. She certainly knows how to direct offenders to complete their mandated court conditions. Giving advice to troubled people becomes second nature. Brokering services and analyzing offender needs is usually a skill that most PO’s have perfected. Reflective listening, however, is a new skill for most of us.     

This is difficult work because most of us are acculturated to be concerned about what the other thinks of us. We need to develop a skill to really and truly be concerned what the other thinks of himself. This is the key to reflective listening as we shall see. This skill involves a great deal of patience and a great deal of curiosity about the other. Author Steven Covey calls this skill ‘empathetic listening.’

 

“ ‘Seek first to understand’ involves a very deep shift in paradigm. We  typically seek first to be understood. Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They are either speaking or preparing to speak. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other  people’s lives.”

 

As PO’s, we probably have never been trained to listen. It’s harder than it sounds. Most of our training has come either from other PO’s or by trying to apply our own social communication skills to on-the-job situations. This does not work on two different levels.

 

(1) The ‘concerned/caring/helping type of PO is not usually quiet long enough to even understand the problem as the offender understands it. A great deal of damage can be done by prescribing solutions for offender’s problem,  as you would prescribe them for yourself. This can cause despair, failure, and even a high level of danger for the victims of certain crimes, such as domestic assault.  Sometimes this approach can be very dangerous for the PO as well.

 

(2) The second type of PO, historically, is the investigate/track/incarcerate type. She, too, puts herself at a disadvantage by suggesting answers in the formulation of her questions, and not having the patience to really figure out who she is dealing with before springing into action. She will keep reformulating questions ever more cleverly (in her mind) until she gets an admission or an agreement from the offender.

 

Again, let’s listen to Steven Covey:  Emphatic listening is so powerful because it gives you accurate data to  work with. Instead of projecting your own autobiography and assuming thoughts, feelings, motives and interpretations, you’re dealing with the  reality inside another person’s head and heart. You’re listening to understand.’

 

This author, I’m sure, did not have Parole and Probation officers in mind when he wrote this book. But unless you can turn you own office, cubicle, or desk into a stage where you ‘perform’ this type of listening, you will eventually arrive at some very disconcerting beliefs about offenders and, by extension, yourself.  Have any of you fellow officers ever made these kinds of statements ?

 

‘I really hate this job’

‘I really don’t like these people’

‘You can’t believe a thing these guys say’

‘I can’t believe they ever let this offender out of custody’

‘This system is really collapsing’

‘I can’t deal with these people anymore’

 

When you arrive at this point in your career as a PO, the stress of simply driving to work becomes tremendous. It is our hope that the ‘language’ we are about to discuss will go a long way towards relieving some of this stress.

 

Listening means more than sitting passively while the ‘other’ speaks. You must engage the other with non-verbal cues such as an occasional nod, a squinting of the eyes, and hand movements. Above all, however, is the need for you, as the listener, to blink. In our culture blinking signifies engagement in the conversation and a level of understanding. Some students of this language become so engrossed in the technique that they forget to blink and put the ‘other’ very ill at ease. Our goal here is to get the offender to tell his or her story. They want very much to tell this story to the ‘authorities’ and this authority means you. The skill level needed to engage the ‘other’ in a monologue about himself requires constant practice. As PO’s we have unlimited opportunities to practice with our offenders. Also, we recommend you don’t practice this technique on friends or you may soon not have any friends.                                                    

The Language

 

Offenders usually  want to discuss certain events in their immediate experience. These ‘events’ are usually the crime of conviction or the most recent allegation of a parole or probation violation. Try this:

 

They: ‘I know what I did was wrong’.

You: (silence)

They: You know...being positive for speed.’

You: You used drugs.’ (A simple statement)

They: ‘Yeah, everybody does it all the time

 

The offender is probably thinking of the specific event wherein he used the drug on the particular occasion that resulted in a positive urine test. Our silence forces him to say the word  speed. If the offender doesn’t say it, they usually don’t think it applies to them. After the admission of the actual topic (in this case drug usage) our next goal is not to let the offender’s statements lag at this point. So we pick out the word or words that are key for us. In this case, the words ‘used drugs’ and reflect them back to the offender. Do not say these words with a questioning inflection.  Say them as simply and as ‘matter of a factly’  as possible. The offender will usually verify your statement and present you with a belief. (Yeah, everybody does it all the time).

 

The next thing that comes out of the PO’s mouth is critical. If you say ‘I told you it was a violation’ you are putting the spotlight back on you and merely stating the obvious. If you say, ‘at least you admitted it to me’ you are putting the spotlight back on you and denying the seriousness of the event .If you say ‘ didn’t you know it was a violation?’ you are discussing his intelligence instead of his drug usage.

 

The opportunity presented here is one to reinforce both your concern for the person as an individual and steer the conversation towards ‘patterns’ in the offender’s life.

 

They: (continuing) ‘Yeah, everybody does it all the time’

You: ‘And you’re like everybody (simple, humble, statement of fact)

They: Yeah...well no; I guess I just got caught up in hangin’ around the wrong  people.

You: ‘This bothers you’  (simple statement of fact)

They: ‘No...well yes...if I overdo it’

You: ‘Overdo it’ (simple statement of fact...not a questioning tone)

They: Yeah. Sometimes I guess I overdo it; like the last time I...

 

The offender is now talking about himself. This was the reason for the office visit or home call in the first place, wasn’t it?  The data will usually come pouring out as fast as the offender can speak. A skillful PO will determine the type and extent of drug usage, the location of use, and the true treatment needs of the offender. All situations are unique and one becomes more proficient using this ‘language’ the more one practices it.

 

Also, the offender feels validated by someone actually taking the time to spend a few minutes discussing his needs instead of the specific expectations of the Department of Corrections. For those of you reading this material, we cannot stress too strongly that one of the primary fears and greatest needs of the offender is the need to feel important. Anyone with a history of expulsion, exclusion,  incarceration, and failed criminal behavior is probably trying to fill a huge need for recognition. This may be part of the explanation for boisterousness, aggression, gang affiliation, and substance abuse and its’ ultimate consequence...addiction.

 

Think about it.

 

Less talking + less questioning = More information about conformance.

Less suggesting + less prescribing = More information about treatment needs.

Less skepticism + more belief = More offenders in treatment

 

This runs contrary to what we see on television and what we hear coming from the office of the PO down the hall.  In fact, this type ‘supervision language’ may have never before been presented to Parole and Probation Officers. It is contrary to the ‘just ask questions until we get to the truth’ format. It also runs contrary to the ‘defusing techniques’ many us have been taught for use with high risk offenders. Think of the technique as a sort of mental judo where the offender is allowed to bring up subjects of interest to him (his innocence, his lack of significant drug usage etc.) And then ‘flipped’ into information pertinent to the PO.  This initially takes some patience to master, but the results will be less work and less stress for the PO..

 

The Big Picture

 

What are we, as Corrections professionals, trying to do with these offenders over the long term ? Certainly community protection is a priority. Likewise, we need to investigate and report violations to the various courts and boards of parole. But these are simply ‘events’. This is much like the offender focusing on his last positive urine test and not coming to grips with the damage done, over the long term, to his health, his family, his freedom, and his community but his continued drug use.

 

Our communities demand incarceration, treatment, education, and rehabilitation (however it is defined). But in order to arrive at these goals with any type of success we must first seek to understand the individual we are working with. And before we can understand the offender, we must first understand ourselves. Noted criminal educator, Gordon Graham, advises offenders to take a good hard look at their own personal reality.

 

“Current reality may be that you are using drugs...but only a little. Current reality may be that you don’t have a job...yeah, but you have a lot of prospects. In order for change to occur it is absolutely necessary to look at current reality and develop an

action plan to get us from where we are to where we want to be.  This creates personal accountability for the vision and the drive and energy to make it happen.

 

This can be a fairly overwhelming challenge for an uneducated, unskilled, substance abuser with a criminal record. How much more important it becomes for us to show the offender the minefield they are traveling through. To show the offender how to see the big picture. To show the offender that his PO is someone who can sanction quickly and fairly, but only after he understands the issues, as the offender sees them.

 

These skills allow the PO to become more consistent in imposing sanctions and rewards. Allows the PO to better control the flow of information from the offender. Allows the PO to relieve the stress of trying to change the unchangeable and ‘fix’ situations that cannot necessarily be impacted by the government. These techniques will change the way you do business and are unlimited in the scope of their applicability in our society.

 

Exercises

 

#1   SHE’S ALWAYS ON MY BACK !!

 

Scenario: The offender enters the PO’s office with the nature of the problem very well verbalized. His girlfriend is ‘driving me crazy’. As PO’s, try to determine a danger level, if any, to the community and then help the offender understand the underlying problem. During the session he will probably express the desire to engage in solutions that are inappropriate or illegal.

 

Goal: Try to determine if this offender could be a drug user or a domestic violence perpetrator. Understand exactly who is living in the house he occupies. Review the conditions of probation. When he reaches the underlying problem (usually employment/money) discuss his current expenses (drugs?) And method of job search. If he is employed and not using drugs, discuss the his willingness to be subject to possible repercussion of any illegal behavior. Determine the nature of the relationship with the girlfriend and her current location. Explore options.

 

#2   WILL THIS TEST FOR COUGH SYRUP ??

 

Scenario: As you get ready to take a drug test the offender mentions that he has been taking cold medication.

 

Goal: Try to determine the nature and extent of the offender’s drug usage. Assess his associates. Verify his current living arrangement. Deflect irrelevant subject matter. Determine the method of drug usage. Review treatment mandates and/or needs. Determine past attempts at treatment. Explore options.

 

# 3   I CAN NEVER PASS A POLYGRAPH

 

Scenario: The sex offender is quite agitated about his first scheduled disclosure polygraph. He is quite clear that he has never yet been able to pass a polygraph.

 

Goal: Try to determine the subject’s actual residence. Obtain information about who lives in and visits this residence. See if there are other locations where the offender stays. Learn where, when, and why  the other polygraphs were given. Review the conditions of supervision. Determine precisely where the offender is in his treatment. Explore options.

 

#4 YOU’RE REALLY STARTING TO PISS ME OFF  

 

Scenario: The offender quietly smoldering in your office. His anger is visible and his expression is extremely hostile. You learn that he is ‘fed up with the system’.

 

Goal: Try to determine if the offender is under the influence of a substance. Evaluate danger to yourself and other staff. Determine nature of the offender’s problem with the system. Review supervision conditions, as appropriate. Verify residence and determine any threat to other occupants. Check employment status. Review conditions. Explore options

 

#5 IT’S HOPELESS

 

Scenario: The offender looks like they have been crying. They are very uncommunicative. When you ask them if there is a problem they say no. They indicate to you that it really doesn’t matter because ‘no one cares’.

 

Goal: Determine what is upsetting the offender. Use silences to elicit information.  Explore options.

 

#6   I WAS REALLY HIGH WHEN IT HAPPENED

 

Scenario: The offender was cited for shoplifting and the police report indicates that a substance was involved. The offender admits alcohol use during the commission of the instant offense.

 

Goal: Try to determine the nature and extent of the offender’s substance abuse. Determine his drugs of choice. Advise him that you will be taking a urine sample. Verify his place of residence and employment. Determine his whereabouts, precisely, for the last two weeks. Review his treatment conditions.

 

#7   THERE’S NO WAY I’M GOING TO BE ABLE TO DO THIS PAROLE.   I’VE ALWAYS FAILED BEFORE   

 

Scenario: This is your first meeting with the offender. They are particularly agitated about several conditions of their new supervision. In particular, they object to the weapons condition and the prohibition from leaving the state.

 

Goal: Try to defuse the situation for several minutes so the Offender can describe her frustration.  Determine the number and type of weapons in her  possession or control. Understand the reasoning about their her to leave the state. Review offender’s employment and residence. Probe domestic situation.        

 

Miscellaneous Tips

 

Ø                  When working with a hostile offender or citizen, interject your name as soon as possible. This makes it harder on them to continue the verbal abuse.

Ø                  Practice the ‘5 breaths’ technique...it really works

Ø                  Be ready, really  ready, for negative people. Try to understand what makes them this way

Ø                  Take all threats seriously

Ø                  The government is not the offender’s mother or father

Ø                  When all else fails,  don’t hesitate to incarcerate

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